Our therapist Joanna Harrison offers a therapist's view on the legal discussion surrounding no fault divorce in this recent article for Resolution legal magazine.
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How to make a living from a career in counselling
We talked to Olivia Luna, a former student of ours, about how her couple counselling qualification journey resulted in her setting up her own practice in London, Talking is Good.
My journey into private practice has been great. I would say that this organisation helped with making the transition into a new career in counselling. This is vital as it can be quite daunting starting a new career and looking at years of study, so I am glad to be able to tell my story and I hope it helps people ‘fill in the gaps’ between wanting to work with couples and making a living out of it.
How no fault divorce could help couples, children and families is discussed with Victoria Young.
Following the Supreme Court’s ruling not to overturn a previous decision to refuse Tini Owens a divorce from her husband, Tavistock Relationships’ Liz Hamlin spoke to the BBC about the case and why the law on divorce needs reform.
The case of Owens versus Owens – where the 68 year old Tini Owens has sought a divorce from her eighty-year old husband, Hugh - has led to many commentators picking up on the way in which our current laws on divorce lead to increased conflict and acrimony between partners. As Suzanne Moore noted, in the Guardian:
“Everyone knows that minimising conflict in the divorce process is a humane move, especially when children are involved”.
As part of the national coverage Tavistock Relationships was asked by Victoria Young on the BBC News Channel to offer an insight into the wider topic of divorce.
Tavistock Relationships Divorce and Separation service specialist Liz Hamlin appeared on the programme and talked about the fact that psychological processes such as separation – which involve both conscious and unconscious factors - often do not neatly fit into the law.
Divorce in the UK, Hamlin said, would be helpfully served by removing the current requirement for one party to be judged to have been at fault(for example as a result of unreasonable behaviour or infidelity, in order for a court to agree to a legal separation. “At the end of the relationship”, she observed, “it is very easy to see what the other person has done, much harder to see what you have done yourself - so no blame divorce would be helpful.”
Hamlin noted the impact on not only the adults involved but also their children as a result of the added antagonism and hurt caused by the current law.
“Divorce is not an event, it is part of a process”, Hamlin continued. “Once someone is divorced there will continue to be life and the amount of antagonism and hurt, it will take longer and longer to recover from that. Younger people, their children are affected.”
While some relationships be helped, Hamlin noted at the end of the interview – for example through Tavistock Relationships new 50+ service, which provides a space in which older couples can start to think about their relationship in their advancing years – it is also important acknowledge that “there will be others where perhaps the relationship has nowhere further to go.”
Our Divorce and Separation Service offers couples and indivduals support to those who have gone through the process to make sense of their emotional state.
What it's like to study couple psychotherapy at one of London's most renowned centres
A news feature by Erica Herrero-Martinez
People are attracted to training as couple therapists at Tavistock Relationships for a variety of reasons. Some may find the idea of saving a troubled relationship appealing. Others may think they have a particular skill at acting as peace-keepers or mediators during arguments. Others may have personal reasons for wanting to undertake the training — early experiences dealing with warring parents, perhaps, or previous experience as a client of coming to couple therapy.
Leading charities and professionals discuss ways to make mid and later life more positive and the power of individuals and society to make change.
As part of Tavistock Relationships’ and Calouste Gulbenkian’s Couple 50+ plus MOT, the staging of a set of presentations and discussions on loneliness and the ageing process took place in the shape of the ‘Preventing Loneliness in Later Life’ event.
Tavistock Relationships’ Parents in Dispute (PiD) programme, which works with long-term separated families in entrenched conflict involving the family courts, is featured in the May 2018 version of the Ministry of Justice’s independent, externally peer-reviewed journal, the Family Justice Research Bulletin.
How women’s overemployment and underemployment may contribute to their depression and low relationship satisfaction of their partners
Research conducted at Tavistock Relationships shows that women’s work-hours constraint (i.e. the discrepancy between desired and actual number of working hours), may contribute to women’s depression and low relationship satisfaction of their parents. The comparison of women who were overemployed (who worked longer hours than they wished), underemployed (who worked shorter hours than they wished) with those who were adequately employed (who worked as much as they wished), showed higher levels of depression in overemployed and underemployed compared to adequately employed.
Also, lower relationship satisfaction was found in partners of those who were saw themselves as working too many hours.
Tavistock Relationships thinks that greater attention should be paid by policy makers and employers to women’s work-hours constraint, particularly where women have infant children. 71% (out of the 928 surveyed) reported not being satisfied (i.e. being employed more or less hours than desired). Significantly, this group may be identified as being at increased risk of depression and having strained and discordant relationships with their partners.
You can read a paper about our work by clicking on the image here:
New title features content from organisations psychodynamic and pscyhoanalytic training and clincal staff, past and present
Aleksandra Novakovic and Marguerite Reid’s book Couple Stories: Application of Psychoanalytic Ideas in Thinking About Couple Interaction, is being officially ‘launched’ at an event at Tavistock Relationships.
Line-up to feature Baroness Tyler and Paul Burstow
The culmination of Tavistock Relationships’ 70th Anniversary Year celebrations, the Tavistock Relationhips Autumn Conference, held this year at a special venue, Kings College on Friday 30th November, is gaining shape with the announcement of new speakers.
BACP’s magazine looks at our clincal and training model and explores what couple work is like
Leader of our psychodynamic training, Catriona Wrottesley has written a feature in Therapy Today, the official magazine of the British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP)
When helping with both anxiety and depression, couple based talking therapy is the most effective
Tavistock Relatonships' Mary Morgan and Damian McCann attended this event and were able to contribute to a fascinating 4 days.
Here we feature a report on the event by the organisers:
Leading charities and parliamentarians ask the Government to expand support so that all children affected by inter-parental conflict can receive support
Leading couple therapy charity announces programme of activities to celebrate seven decades of supporting couples and families
Event leads exciting programme to mark key anniversary of charity’s founding
Nov 30th 2018 will mark the high water mark of a year of activities for Tavistock Relationships, celebrating its creation in 1948 and the work of 7 decades supporting couples and families. The Tavistock Relationships Autumn conference will be held on this date at Kings College London, Strand Campus.
Children & Young People Now make our programme, helping couples with relationships and parenting, a winner in family category at 2017 ceremony.
Results demonstrate need for help such as our 'Over 50's MOT' programme.
A newly published survey found that one in five adults (20%) who retired in the last five years have admitted to finding it difficult, according to figures from a UK-wide survey.