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(1980) Woodhouse, D. Marriage Matters Bulletin of the British Psychological Society 33 350-350

The author, a member of the Home Office/DFSS working party on marital problems and related services, outlines the findings and recommendations of its consultative document (1979) with special reference to psychologists engaged in practice, training and research in this field. It highlights the report's call for the better use of existing resources; for research to be relevant to practice; and for researchers to forge continuing collaborative relationships with service agencies.



(1981) Clulow, C., Cudmore, L., Mattinson, J., Ruszczynski, S., Vincent, C. Facing Both Ways Social Work Today 13 15 13-15.

Based on evidence given to the National Institute for Social Work's inquiry on the role and tasks of social workers, the paper proposes a mediating role for social workers in which they act neither to impose social conformity on individuals, nor to revolutionise society for the individual, but to mediate between the two and thereby lessen the disabling effects of tensions within relationships at different levels.



(1982) Clulow, C. Implications of a Marital Approach to Parenthood Preparation Seminars in Family Medicine (University of Michigan) 3 2 73-76.

A description of a groupwork programme for expectant couples continuing into the first six months of parenthood. The paper reviews the experience of the groups, reassesses the relevance of crisis theory to the transition to parenthood and considers the meaning of preventive work in this context.



(1982) Clulow, C. To Have and To Hold: Marriage, the First Baby and Preparing Couples for Parenthood Aberdeen: Aberdeen University Press.

Through case descriptions and research findings the impact of children on marriage is traced through the transition to parenthood. A group approach to preparing couples for parenthood is described and the experience of health visitors monitored in their individual contacts with families. The meaning of 'prevention' is reassessed in the light of this experience.



(1982) Cohen, N. Same or Different? A Problem of Identity in Cross-Cultural Marriages Journal of Family Therapy 4 177-199.

Discusses the cases of five cross-cultural couples (aged 31-50 years) seen in couple therapy. It is argued that marrying out of their own culture provided the partners with a more definite identity, while also giving a valid reason for avoiding difficulties inherent in the process of developing their identity within their original culture.



(1982) Fader, J. The Transitional Person: Understanding Infidelity Marriage Guidance 20 2 75-80

Seeks to draw a parallel between Winnicott's explanation of the transitional object and the way one person uses a third party to leave a relationship when their own needs have changed while those of their partner have remained the same.



(1982) Mattinson, J. The Deadly Equal Triangle In:Change and Renewal in Psychodynamic Social Work: British and American Developments in Practice and Education for Services to Families and Children. Massachusetts/London: Smith College School of Social Work & the Group for Advancement of Psychotherapy in Social Work.

This paper highlights the triangular relationship between client, practitioner and supervisor which requires flexibility of movement between the three parties, one party being able to allow temporary pairings of the other two. The problem for any supervisor is in knowing when to intrude and when to be excluded.



(1983) Clulow, C. F. Psychodynamic Sex Therapy Marriage Guidance 19 2 26-29

A comment on the thinking of Freud, Erikson and the object relations school of thought on sexuality, and the concept of transference as a working method.



(1983) Vincent, C. and Evans, G. Chains, Drains and Welfare - Where Next for Prison Social Work? Probation Journal 30 1 22-28

Based on a series of research consultations with the probation department of a home counties local prison, this paper reviews four factors which bear on the future development of social work in prison: the history to date of the 'through care' policy, current dilemmas in the probation service about care and control, the restricted finance available for prison upkeep and the ambivalent involvement of prison offices in welfare schemes.



(1984) Clulow, C. Sexual Dysfunction and Interpersonal Stress: the Significance of the Presenting Complaint in Seeking and Engaging Help British Journal of Medical Psychology 57 371-380

The paper surveys the extent of sexual problems in one year's applications to the Institute and the degree of match between couples and therapists in the ways these problems were understood. Sexual dysfunction is seen as having a 'functional' aspect, capable of drawing attention to sensitive areas in marriage and yet of deflecting away from them when attention constitutes a threat. The nature of the threat is examined from a psychodynamic perspective in relation to a case example, and implications are drawn for therapists in managing both presenting symptoms and the transference.



(1984) Cohen, N. and Pugh, G. The Presentation of Marital Problems in General Practice The Practioner 228

Collaboration between a general practioner and a marital psychotherapist. Aims at identifying how patients alert their doctors to marital problems.



(1985) Clulow, C. Marital Therapy: An Inside View Aberdeen: Aberdeen University Press.

The basic assumptions of psychodynamic marital therapy are identified by exploring questions, thoughts and feelings of two co-therapists as they work conjointly with a couple. The detailed case history is a vehicle for considering practice issudes, including the process of referral and evaluation of therapy through follow-up.



(1985) Daniell, D. Love and Work: Complementary Aspects of Personal Identity International Journal of Social Economics 12 2 48-55.

Clinical material is used to illustrate the complementary nature of love and work. Unconscious as well as conscious motivations in both marital and occupational choice are explored alongside one another. The personal costs of loss of work are considered.



(1985) Daniell, D. Marital Therapy: A Psychodynamic Approach In: Dryden, W., Ed. Marital Therapy in Britain London: Harper and Row

This paper provides an introduction to key concepts and contextual considerations in marital psychotherapy. The nature of marital disturbance, choice of partner, shared phantasy, shared defence and therapeuticcontract are all illustrated by clinical material.



(1985) Dearnley, B. A Plain Man's Guide to Supervision - or New Clothes for the Emperor? Journal of Social Work Practice 2 1 52-65.

Examines the 'all or nothing' conflict in which supervisors often feel caught. The crucial unsaid influences in supervision are understood in the context of transference, the reflection process and the triangular relationship. An internal model of supervision and the natural history of the supervisor is offered concluding with 'ten commandments' to guard against supervisory 'nakedness'.



(1985) Mattinson, J. The Effects of Abortion on Marriage In: Abortion: Medical Progress and Social Implications London: CIBA Foundation.

This paper draws on the experiences of couples who sought help for their troubled marriages after an abortion had affected their relationships.



(1985) Vincent, C. Some Ailment in the Spiritual Part Journal of the Royal Society of Medicine 78 8 26-27

Research suggests that, among helping professionals, general practitioners are the most frequently sought out by people with marital problems. Discrepant or anomalous signs may justify the doctor looking behind the manifest medical problem to an underlying relationship difficulty; the professional dilemmas involved in this process are examined.



(1986) Balfour, F., Clulow, C., Dearnley, B. The Outcome of Maritally Focused Psychotherapy Offered as a Possible Model for Marital Psychotherapy Outcome Studies British Journal of Psychotherapy 3 2 133-143

A model for describing and evaluating change in a couple relationship is set out, drawing on a follow-up method established at the Tavistock Clinic for the assessment of change in individual patients.



(1986) Clulow, C. Research Into Practice Marriage Guidance 22 1 7-15

A review article summarising and commenting on three research reports emanating from the National Marriage Guidance Council which concerned counsellor/client relationships.



(1986) Clulow, C. Social Aspects of the Experience of Early Parenthood In: Couples and Children London: Family and Social Action.

Discussion notes which ask questions about the nature of the problems associated with becoming parents, the kind of community which exists for them and areas for change.



(1986) Clulow, C., Dearnley, B., Balfour, F. Shared Phantasy and Therapeutic Structure in a Brief Marital Psychotherapy. British Journal of Psychotherapy 3 2 124-132.

The paper examines the interrelationship between an unconscious shared phantasy which had produced deadlock in a marriage and two aspects of a brief therapeutic offer of six session, namely its brevity and the decision to see partners separately.



(1987) Clulow, C. and Vincent, C. In the Child's Best Interests? Divorce Court Welfare and the Search for a Settlement London: Tavistock: Sweet and Maxwell.

The work of a team of specialist divorce court welfare officers and their clients is described in detail, with the experiences of the professionals seen in terms of the experiences of their client parents. The nature of the often intractable problems of parents litigating over their children is examined in connection with unresolved attachments to former partners and the context of welfare work.



(1988) Clulow, C. Marriage: Losing Our Illusions Values 3 1 8-10.

An exploration of the gap between statistics which indicate high levels of divorce and images of married security fostered at public and personal levels. Some illusions associated with married life are discussed, and it is argued that disillusionment is part of the experience of healthy development in marriage.



(1988) Colman, W. After the Fall: Original Loss and the Limits of Redemption Free Associations 13 59-83

This paper explores experiences of catastrophic loss drawing on psychoanalytic concepts of early development and the story of the Fall, with particular reference to Milton's Paradise Lost. The origins of evil are linked to inevitable experiences of separation and 'original loss' which, if beyond the individual's intergrative threshold, function as ever-painful wounds and may produce defensive identification with a paranoid, envious and revengeful 'satanic complex'.



(1988) Mattinson, J. Work, Love and Marriage: The Impact of Unemployment London: Duckworth.

An exploration of the psychological meanings invested in different kinds of work by individuals and couples, it shows how some jobs like some marriages, may be used to contain emotional conflicts. The loss of work is considered in this context, and the special difficulties of those employed to help the unemployed are discussed. A teaching video has been based on the book.



(1989) Clulow, C. Child Applications and Contested Divorce Family Law 19 198-200

The paper describes three categories of conflictful divorce (drawn from a sample of parents subject to court welfare enquiries) and patterns of interaction associated with them in which unresolved attachments to the broken marriage played a part in motivating child access and custody disputes. It is suggested that a lengthy history of divorce-associated litigation, very discrepant accounts of events by the avoidance of communication between parents over a prolonged period of time are predicitve of a very low likelihood of success for efforts at conciliation.



(1989) Clulow, C. Does Marriage Matter? In: Chester, R., Ed.^Eds Does Marriage Matter? Three Perspectives London: Marriage Research Centre.

The text of an address, the paper explores the balance between commitment and choice in modern marriage, taking special account of the couple's internal worlds in managing tensions deriving from it.



(1989) Clulow, C. Second Marriage In: Ed.^Eds Working With Stepfamilies Cambridge: National Stepfamily Association.

The text of an address, the paper considers the emotional environment which sustains, or fails to sustain, second and subsequent marriages, taking account of the part children play in affecting the dynamics of reconstituted families.



(1989) Clulow, C. and Mattinson, J. Marriage Inside Out: Understanding Problems of Intimacy Harmondsworth: Penguin.

An exploration of how disparate public and private expectiations of marriage complicate - and can even cause - many problems commonly experienced by couples. An examination of the psychological ties that bind partners to each other and how they can generate tensions at different stages in life.



(1989) Cohen, N. Reflections on the November 1988 Issue of the Journal of Social Work Practice. Journal of Social Work Practice 4 1 107-108.

Comments on a series of articles which emerged from a seminar on psychotherapy across cultures held at the Tavistock Centre.



(1989) Colman, W. On Call: The Work of a Telephone Helpline for Child Abusers Aberdeen: Aberdeen University Press.

A deatiled study of the work of a telephone helpline for parents under stress, including physical and sexual abusers. It explores the anxieties which underlie all helping relationships as they emerged in the complex interaction between volunteers, their callers and professional workers, and examines the specific shape these anxieties take in relation to child abuse on the one hand and the constraints of telephone work on the other.



(1989) Dearnley, B. e. a. Learning Supervision: Social Work Supervision in a Local Authority London: Wandsworth Social Services Department.

An account of ten years work with supervisors, presenting a theorectical model and a consumer evaluation.



(1990) Clulow, C. Divorce as Bereavement: Similarities and Differences Family and Conciliation Courts Review 28 1 19-22.

The paper compares the experience of losing a partner through death and divorce, summarising some of the psychological, social and economic factors that can combine to make recovery from divorce more problematic than from bereavement



(1990) Clulow, C. Marriage in the 1990s Sexual and Marital Therapy 5 1 25-38.

The paper (originally presented as one of a series of public lectures organised by the Tavistock Clinic) examines changes which have affected the social institution of marriage and how these impinge on the functions of the psychological institution which attempts to manage the often conflicting needs for security and development at a personal level.


(1990) Clulow, C. Marriage, Disillusion and Hope: Papers Celebrating Forty Years of the Tavistock Institute of Marital Studies London: Karnac Books/TIMS

Including contributions from Timothy Renton, Robin Skynner, David Clark and Barbara Dearnley, the book reviews the political, social, personal and therapeutic changes relevant to marriage between 1948 and 1988. Douglas Woodhouse describes the evolution of thinking and practice in the TIMS during that period in an organisational case study



(1990) Clulow, C. Sexueller mißbrauch innerhalb der familia Wege Zum Menschen 42 8 496-503

A translation into German of the report from the Commission on Marriage and Interpersonal Relations of the International Union of Family Organisations meeting in Exeter, June 1989. The report discusses some of the difficulties of measuring the incidence of child sexual abuse and explores why the subject has become a prominent issue at this point in time. Some reasons for and responses to the problem of child sexual abuse within the family are offered



(1990) Clulow, C. Training Implications of the Children Act 1989: The 'Check-List' and Divorce Proceedings Family Law 20 263-266

The first six items on the 'check-list', the guideline for defining the threshold of public intervention in the Children Act, are discussed in the light of current research knowledge and practice experience. Some implications for training are considered.



(1990) Clulow, C. Violence et Familles: Gestion des Conflits Réalites Familiales 16 18-24

A translation into French of the report from the Commission on Marriage and Interpersonal Relations of the International Union of Family Organisations meeting in Malta, May 1990. The report summarises ways in which violence manifests itself in family life, considering both the nature of violence and the changes affecting families. Four broad areas of conflict in family relations are discussed which may trigger violent responses: conservation and change, boundaries, balance of power and care and control



(1990) Huffington, C. and Fisher, J. The 'Bringing Forth' of Learning Context Winter 1990/1991 7 22-27

This dialogue explores an experience of attempting to teach 'systematically' on a two year introductory course in family therapy at the Tavistock Clinic. 'Teaching' is seen as the providing of an interactive context for learning by experience rather than as the imparting of information about something



(1990) Woodhouse, D. Non-Medical Marital Therapy: The Growth of the Institute of Marital Studies In: Trist, E. Ed The Social Engagement of Social Science London: Free Association Books

A review of the evolution of the Tavistock Marital Studies Institute from its inception as the Family Discussion Bureau in 1948 to 1988. A history of organisational and conceptual development



(1991) Clulow, C. The Chronically Ill Child and the Parents' Marriage: Interactive Effects British Journal of Psychotherapy 7 4 331-340

The paper describes the nature of some of the stresses on family members of chronic child illness and its uncertain course, paying particular attention to the parental couple. Through detailed consideration of one couple's experience, the internal ramifications for marriage of a child being seriously and chronically ill are examined and consideration is given to the effectiveness of anticipatory mourning and other forms of help in these circumstances



(1991) Clulow, C. Guest Editor on special issue on Marriage and Couple Work Journal of Social Work Practice 5 2

A collection of papers about the changing social institution of marriage, the nature of partnership, and different policy and practice responses to the question of what constitutes appropriate help.



(1991) Clulow, C. Introduction In: Stepfamilies in a Changing World London: National Stepfamily Association

Introduction to papers emanating from a NSA conference



(1991) Clulow, C. Making, Breaking and Remaking Marriage In: Clark, D., Ed. Marriage, Domestic Life and Social Change. Writings for Jacqueline Burgoyne (1944-88) London and New York: Routledge

Taking a psychodynamic approach to couple relationships, this chapter examines the ties that hold people in marriage and the public and personal implications of separation and divorce. Using the image of stepfamilies as a hybrid family form, rooted in loss, and growing in an unfavourable climate, the author examines issues for adults and children following remarriage.



(1991) Clulow, C. Partners Becoming Parents: A Question of Difference Infant Mental Health Journal 12 3 255-265

In a special edition celebrating the life of John Bowlby, the paper considers why marital satisfaction may decline with the roles and responsibilities of parenthood and pays particular attention to the problem of managing difference at personal and public levels when unconscious assumptions and conscious expectations apply pressures to merge.



(1991) Cohen, N. Marriages InterCulturels: Une Diffèrence-ècran Dialogue. Recherches Cliniques et Sociologiques sur le Couple et la Famille 113

To marry across culture can mean to relive an experience which, in the past, was perceived to be strange and incomprehensible. Work with two couples illustrates the theme of the unconscious choice of partners based on their shared experience which is linked with feelings of exclusion and rejection



(1991) Colman, W. Envy, Self-Esteem and the Fear of Separateness British Journal of Psychotherapy 7 4 356-367

This paper takes issue with Melanie Klein's theory of primary envy. The author argues that the core of envy is a sense of having insufficient resources to exist as a viable and valuable person and is related to environmental failure. The sense of lack gives rise to a compensatory fantasy of an all-providing other who is always out of reach, against which destructive spoiling may be instigated as a defence



(1991) Ruszczynski, S. Books Reconsidered: One Flesh, Separate Persons British Journal of Psychiatry 158 868-870

This essay offers a contemporary review of a text which, when published in 1976, was the first attempt in Britain to outline the theory and practice of family and marital psychotherapy. The author of the book, Robin Skynner, became a leading figure in marital, family and groupl psychotherapy. This essay review provides an appreciation and a critique of a now classic text.



(1991) Ruszczynski, S. Unemployment and Marriage - The Psychological Meaning of Work Journal of Social Work Practice 5 1 19-30

Using a psychoanalytic framework, the paper explores some of the psychological meanings and purposes which may be attached to particular work and work roles, and the psychological impact of the loss of these meanings and puuposes when the work activity is lost. Particular attention is paid to the couple relationship



(1991) Woodhouse, D. and Pengelly, P. Anxiety and the Dynamics of Collaboration Aberdeen: Aberdeen University Press.

For practitioners and their managers, this book demonstrates how the anxieties and defences of organisations can mesh with those of their clients and patients to impede collaboration between agencies. Based on action research with doctors, health visitors, social workers, counsellors and probation officers



(1992) Clulow, C. Is It Catching? Family Law 22 454

On the contagious nature of anxiety in practitioner-client relationships



(1992) Clulow, C. Only Connect Family Law 22 277

Introduction to the series, which bridges the worlds of couple therapy and family law.



(1992) Clulow, C. Out of Bounds Family Law 22 559.

On boundaries in professional relationship



(1992) Clulow, C. Unconscious Communications Family Law 22 502

Illustrates unconscious communications in the context of a solicitor-client relationship.



(1992) Clulow, C. Why Difficult Clients? Family Law 22 354

Examines the impact of change on clients' behaviour in the context of separation and divorce.



(1992) Clulow, C. Why Difficult Solicitors? Family Law 22 398



(1992) Clulow, C. F. Article In: De'Ath, E. Parenting Threads: Caring for Children When Couples Part London: National Stepfamily Association

Compiled by a team of writers, this is a self-help and resource booklet aimed at parents going through the experience of separation and divorce.



(1992) Cudmore, L. The Impact on Infertility on the Couple Relationship In: Reich, D. a. B., A., Ed.^Eds Infertility and Adoption London: Post Adoption Centre


(1992) Morgan, M. Therapist Gender and Psychoanalytic Couple Psychotherapy Sexual and Marital Therapy 7 2 141-156

The psychoanalytic literature on the significance of therapist gender for individual patients is reviewed and considered in relation to couple psychotherapy. Clinical examples are discussed, and the paper concludes that therapist gender in couple psychotherapy is significant, particularly in the sequence in which transference develops and key issues can be worked with; the therapeutic opportunities for the couple are maximised by the provision of a male/female pair of co-therapists.



(1992) Ruszczynski, S. Notes Towards a Psychoanalytic Understanding of the Couple Relationship Psychoanalytic Psychotherapy 6 1 33-48

This paper demonstrates how a particular orientation to contemporary pschoanalytic concepts may be useful for the understanding of a couple relationship. the unconscious forces which may attract a couple to each other and influence the nature of their interaction are outlined. The second part of the paper addresses the nature of the clinical work with a patient couple. A hypothesis is offered regarding possible diagnostic criteria for choosing whether to work with a couple presenting for couple psychotherapy employing one psychotherapist or a co-therapist pair.



(1993) Clulow, C. Connections (Australia) Australian Family Lawyer 9 1 22-25

Two compliations (along with ref. 79) of pieces first published in Family Law on dynamics of interaction between lawyers and their clients.



(1993) Clulow, C. Containment Family Law 23 359

On the concept of containment in the context of the family justice system.



(1993) Clulow, C. Decoding Experience Family Law 23 359

On the concepts of transference and countertransference in the context of the family justice system.



(1993) Clulow, C. 'Good Enough' Marriage In: Clulow, C. Ed. Rethinking Marriage: Public and Private Perspectives London: Karnac Book

An exploration of what is meant by healthy marriage, drawing on the work of Winnicott, Maslow and Lewis. From these psychoanalytical, humanistic and systemic perspectives marriage is conceived of as a potentially facilitating environment for human growth and development.



(1993) Clulow, C. Impasses of Divorce: Which Ways Forward? Family and Conciliation Courts Review 31 2 244-248

Creating an environment in which children can develop with trust and confidence is a key issue for social policy makers, family practitioners and parents. Although allied by this concern, too often the three groups behave as if their interests are opposed; children can then become casualties. the process of separation and divorce creates particular opportunities and special hazards in this respect, which have enormous implications for the future well-being of individuals and communities. This report describesa model for conceptualising, in the context of divorce, how it is that potential allies can sometimes become implacable foes, and considers some ways forward.



(1993) Clulow, C. Linguistic Dipossession Family Law 23 91

On the use of language in the family law context.



(1993) Clulow, C. Making Sense of Marriage Breakdown and the Role of the Professional Australian Family Lawyer 8 4 17-20

Two compliations (along with ref. 80) of pieces first published in Family Law on dynamics of interaction between lawyers and their clients.



(1993) Clulow, C. Managing Feelings Family Law 23 242-243

On managing ambivalence and staying in role in the context of divorce work.



(1993) Clulow, C. Marriage Across Frontiers: National, Ethnic and Religious Differences in Partnership Sexual and Marital Therapy 8 1 81-87

Comprising the report on a conference of the same title, the paper summarises problems of definition, the proposition that cross-cultural marriages are subversive, areas of vulnerability and potential in such partnerships, and considers how they might better be supported.



(1993) Clulow, C. New Families? Changes in Society and Family Relationships Sexual and Marital Therapy 8 3 269-273

A report of the meeting of the Commission on Marriage and Interpersonal Relations of the International Union of Family Organisations in Baden, Austria, May 1993.



(1993) Clulow, C. Professional Distance Family Law 23 39

On distance regulation in professional relationships



(1993) Clulow, C. Referral Family Law 23 427

On the dynamics of referral in the context of the family justice system.



(1993) Clulow, C. Rethinking Marriage In: Clulow, C., Ed Rethinking Marriage: Public and Private Perspectives London: Karnac Books

An essay on some interactions between private issues and public concerns in relation to marriage from a therapist's perspective. A summary of succeeding chapters is organised around the problem 'what is marriage for'?



(1993). Clulow, C., Ed. Rethinking Marriage: Public and Private Perspectives. London: Karnac Books.



(1993) Clulow, C. Scene Setting Family Law 23 155

Addresses issues arising in the first meeting between solicitors and their clients.



(1993) Cohen, N., Fisher, J., Clulow, C.F. Predicting Engagement with Psychoanalytical Couple Psychotherapy Sexual and Marital Therapy 8 3 217-230

One year's application to the Tavistock Institute of Marital Studies for couple psychotherapy are analysed, along with therapist assessment reports for those couples in the sample taking up an offer of therapy, with the aim of identifying predictive factors for engagement with psychoanalytical couple psychotherapy. A positive association is found in six areas: where there was a delay in returning application forms; where couples had been married/living together for a long time; where men described their emotional state rather than argued a case; where couple engaged those reading their applications in a similar way; where there was an interactive view of the problem; and where space for reflection rather than problem solving or emotional crisis management was expected in terms of help.



(1993) Colman, W. Celebrating the Phallus Catholic Marriage Advisory Council Bulletin 33 129 16-21

An investigation of male sexuality, focusing on the archetypal significance of the phallus as signifier of male creativity and destructiveness. The paper argues for a positive re-valuation of masculinity, distinguishing its aggressive from its destructive aspects and exploring the roots of male destructiveness in terms of maternal rejection of phallic strivings and the inability to make a positive identification with a creative father and a parental couple in creative intercourse.



(1993) Colman, W. Fidelity as a Moral Achievement In: Clulow, C., Ed. Rethinking Marriage: Public and Private Perspectives London: Karnac Books

This paper differentiates between fidelity as a legally imposed requirement of marriage and as a personal guarantee given by each partner of the specialness of the other. The latter requires psychological struggle to reconcile personal and social needs - a process that is defined as moral work. The conflict and reconcilement between personal and social needs is explored through four well known stories of love, marriage and infidelity: Pride and Prejudice, Brief Encounter, Jude the Obsure and Madame Bovary.



(1993) Colman, W. The Individual and the Couple In: Ruszczynski, S., Ed. Psychotherapy with Couples London: Karnac Books

Jung's concept of individuation of its stress on the creative tension of opposites is applied to one of the major oppositions in all couple relationships, that between the couple itself and the individuals within it. Although individuation refers to the development of a unique self this can only take place in the context of relationship to something other than self. Ultimately it refers to the capacity for a psychological union of opposites, symbolised as the internal couple. Various difficulties in establishing the internal marriage are considered in relation to the couple, especially the wish for fusion as an avoidance of separateness and the problem of unequal development in the two partners.



(1993) Colman, W. Marriage as a Psychological Container In: Ruszczynski, S., Ed. Psychotherapy with Couples London: Karnac Books

This paper argues that the purpose of marital therapy is to promote the capacity of the marriage to act as a psychological container for the two individuals within it. Distinctions are made between marraige as a therapeutic institution and the institution of therapy and between the task of individual therapy and that of marital therapy. The paper compares and contrasts different forms of containment and examines links with related concepts such as holding and attachment.



(1993) Fisher, J. The Impenetrable Other: Abmivalence and the Oedipal Conflict in Work with Couples In: Ruszczynski, S., Ed. Psychotherapy with Couples London: Karnac Books

This paper explores a common dynamic in couples who are caught in a frustrating relationship which can end in hopeless despair and finally separation. It focuses on the experience of not being able to get through to am impenetrable other and explores how this is rooted in a failure to come to terms with the emotions of the three-person Oedipal conflict.



(1993). Ruszczynski, S., Ed. Psychotherapy with Couples: Theory and Practice at the Tavistock Institute of Marital Studies. London: Karnac Books.

This chapter offers an introduction to the TMSI by outlining its theoretical and clinical work as it has developed since the inception of the Institute in 1948. As well as sketching out some of the theoretical concepts underpinning clinical work with couples, the author also refers to the various research and writing projects undertaken in the Institute.



(1993) Ruszczynski, S. Thinking About and Working with Couples In: Ruszczynski, S., Ed. Psychotherapy with Couples London: Karnac Books

This chapter focuses in some detail at the therapeutic intervention offered to couples seen for psychotherapy in the Institute. The author shows how psychoanalytic theory is applied to the understanding of, and working with, the intimate adult relationships.



(1994) Clulow, C. Balancing Care and Control: The Supervisory Relationship as a Focus for Promoting Organisational Health In: Obholzer, A. and. Roberts., V., Eds. The Unconscious at Work London: Routledge

Drawing on the experience of a staff supervision course for managers in the Probation Service, this chapter looks at how the supervisory relationship can act as a receiver of unconscious communications which bear upon the nature of work-specific anxieties, and also some of the individual-cum-organisational defences that are deployed to manage them. Precisely because of its location and potential that state and quality of provision made for supervision can be taken as a key indicator of organisational health in the human services.



(1994) Clulow, C. Grenzubersschreitende Ehen: Nationale, Ethnische und Religiose Unterschiede in der Partnerschaft Wege Zum Menschen 46 6 376-380


(1994) Clulow, C. Lawyers and Stress: The Family Connection Legal Executive Journal May 28-29

An exploration of anxiety generated by change in the professional world of lawyers and the personal worlds of their clients, and how they interact with each other. Argues for collaboration between legal and mental health disciplines in managing work-related stress.



(1994) Clulow, C. Obituary: Enid Balint Edmonds Sexual and Marital Therapy 9 3 101


(1994) Colman, W. Encountering the Erotic Spirit: Love, Desire and Infatuation Journal of Analytical Psychology 39 4 497-514

This paper looks at the experience of falling in love. It shows the universality of the experience and investigates its peculiar mixture of sublime spirituality and intense bodily passion, drawing on Plato and love poetry from the Renaissance to the present. It is a unique experience which, although containing features associated with earlier phases of development such as idealisation and the longing for oneness, cannot be entirely derived from them since it is particularly associated with initiation into adult life.



(1994) Hughes, L. and Pengelly, P. Who Cares if the Room is Cold? Practicalities, Projections and the Trainer's Authority In: Yelloly, M. Ed. Learning and Teaching in Social Work London: Jessica Kingsley Publications

Trainers are often the recipients of feelings and beliefs which course participants normally experience towards 'authority' in their work place. This is heightened in contemporary conditions of rapid organisational change. The struggle to identify and understand such interactions may provide the core experience that enables learning to be transferred to the work-setting.



(1994) Ruszczynski, S. Enactment as Countertransference Journal of the British Association of Psychotherapists 27 July

The central argument of this paper is that the therapist's countertransference experience is by definition unconscious. Enactments in the transference-countertransference relationship will offer the first clues that, through the unconscious processes of projective and introjective identifications, patters from the inner world of the patient or client are being repeated in the therapeutic encounter.



(1994) Ruszczynski, S. Robin Skynner: 'One Flesh, Separate Persons' In: Crown, S., Ed. The Book of Psychiatric Books New York: Jason Aronson

One of a collection of over thirty-five essay-reviews which originally appeared in the 'Books Reconsiderd' series in the British Journal of Psychiatry (1991). A selection of passages from the text is included to show something of the nature of the book being reviewed.



(1994) Ruszczynski, S. Working with Couples - a Psychoanalytic Perspective Catholic Marriage Advisory Council Bulletin 34 134 1-10

Ambivalence and conflict are inescapable in any meaningful relationship. The roots of these feelings lie in the earliest intimate relationships with the parental figures, and the parents as a couple, and are likely to be re-enacted in a couple's relationship with each other.



(1995) Clulow, C. Introduction In: Clulow, C. F., Ed. Women, Men and Marriage London: Sheldon Press

A narrative account of the confusions women and men experience at a personal level about whether or not they have a marriage and its replications at a public level. The narrative weaves together themes developed in succeeding chapters.



(1995) Clulow, C. Marriage and Families in the Nineties Catholic Marriage Advisory Council Bulletin 35 138 1-11

A survey of some of the pressures upon and opportunities for couples in contemporary society, and for those supporting them in a professional capacity. The text of a talk given on the occasion of a jubilee conference organised by the Catholic Marriage Advisory Council in Ireland.



1995) Clulow, C. Mental Health and Planning a Pregnancy In: Thomas, V., Wesson, H., Corcoran, C. and Sullivan, K., Eds The Preconceptual Handbook: Support and Advice for Health Practitioners London: West London Health Promotion Agency

A psychological perspective on some of the pressures facing couples as they become parents, written for health practitioners working in the community.



(1995) Clulow, C. A New Millennium? In: Clulow, C.., Ed. Women, Men and Marriage London: Sheldon Press

An examination of four processes which describe and are relevant to understanding contemporary marriage: the privatisation of marriage, the pursuit of an egalitarian dream, the decline of absolute value and the rise of relativism, and the shift from rights and responsibilities. Some elements of paradox and contradiction are identified arising from these interlocking themes.



(1995) Clulow, C. Who Cares? Implications of Caring Responsibilities for Couples and Families Sexual and Marital Therapy 10 1 63-68

Changing patterns of family life, ageing populations, the increasing participation of women in paid employment and economic recession have, along with other factors, highlighted a key question for many countries today: who will care for dependent members of society? The assumption that women will care as part of the historical segregation of roles in marriage can no longer be taken for granted. The implications of this, as assessed by an international gathering of professionals working in the field, are reported on in this paper.



(1995). Clulow, C., Ed. Women, Men and Marriage. London: Sheldon Press.



(1995) Colman, W. Cross-Gender Identifications in Hetrosexual Couples British Journal of Psychotherapy 11 4 522-535

This paper explores the differentiation between gender identity and sexual object choice through a clinical study of couples who, despite having made a hetrosexual object choice, show a marked reversal of conventional gender norms. Their typical interaction constitutes a shared defence against their mutual lack of security about belonging to the gender correlated with their biological sex. Cross-gender identifications are explored in terms of Jung's concept of anima and animus possession and an aetiolocial 'profile' is suggested in which the same oedipal constellation propels girls towards masculinity but cuts boys off from it.



(1995) Colman, W. Gesture and Recognition: An Alternative Model to Projective Identification as a Basis for Couple Relationships In: Ruszczynski, S. and Fisher, J., Eds Intrusiveness and Intimacy in the Couple

This paper argues for the restriction of the term projective identification to defensive processes subsequent to early communications between mother and infant which take place prior to the establishment of ego boundaries. These processes are better understood in terms of Winnicott's notion of the mother's recognition of the infant's gesture. In normal development this experience develops into a capacity feel continually intruded on by each other's attempts to have their own gestures recognised and by the evacuative projection that is required against non-recognition by the other.



(1995) Cudmore, L. The Impact of Infertility on Couples New Generation (NCT Journal)


(1995) Fisher, J. In Discussion with Donald Meltzer In: Ruszczynski, S. and Fisher, J., Ed.^Eds Intrusiveness and Intimacy in the Couple London: Karnac Books


(1995) Fisher, J. and Ruszczynski, S. Introduction In: Ruszczynski, S. and Fisher, J., Eds Intrusiveness and Intimacy in the Couple London: Karnac Books


(1995) Morgan, M. The Projective Gridlock: A Form of Projective Identification in Couple Relationships In: Ruszczynski, S. and Fisher, J., Eds Intrusiveness and Intimacy in the Couple London: Karnac Books

In this chapter the term 'projective gridlock' is used to describe the kind of couple relationship in which the couple have a problem in feeling psychically separate and different from each other. The way projective identification is used to create this kind of relationship is explored. It is suggested that a different kind of 'unconscious choice of partner' is made, than that usually understood. Clinical material is presented and technical issues considered.



(1995) Pengelly, P. Working with Partners: Counselling the Couple and Collaborating in the Team In: Jennings, S., Ed. Infertility Counselling Oxford: Blackwell Sciences

Drawing on joint research with the Royal Free Hospital, this chapter shows how counselling with a couple approach can help partners bear the emotional pain of infertility and sustain the hope of a solution together, instead of these functions becoming destructively split between them. This throws light on the similar splitting which can occur between counsellor and clinician in the treatment team.



(1995) Pengelly, P. I., M., Cudmore, L. Infertility: Couples' Experience and the Use of Counselling in Treatment Centres Psychodynamic Counselling 1 4 507-524

Infertility can have profound effects on couples, who may spend years in an increasingly stressful quest for conception; by law, counselling must be offered to those undergoing licensed treatments. This study found that such couples relied on their own partnership as their main resource for managing stress



(1995) Ruszczynski, S. Between Narcissistic and More Mature Object Relating: Narcissism and the Couple In: Cooper, J. and Maxwell, H., Ed.^Eds Narcissistic Wounds: Clinical Perspectives London: Whurr Publishers

This paper explores the thesis that marital relationships are likely to contain within them a constant movement between more mature ways of relating and less mature, more narcissistic interactions.



(1995) Ruszczynski, S. From Narcissistic to Mature Object Relating: Narcissism and the Couple In: Cooper, J. and Maxwell, H., Eds. Narcissistic Wounds: Clinical Perspectives London: Whurr Publishers

This chapter examines inevitable oscillation between narcissistic and more mature object relating which is likely to take place in all couple relationships. Some couples will, of course, be more rigidly structured by less mature iterations. It is proposed that a committed couple relationship may offer the containment for narcissistic traits to be worked through and intergrated, to the benefit of both partners and their relationship.



(1995) Ruszczynski, S. My Partner, Myself In: Clulow, C., Ed. Women, Men and Marriage London: Sheldon Press

This paper explores the unconscious connections partners make between their earliest love relationships and the choice and nature of their intimate adult relationships.



(1995) Ruszczynski, S. Narcissistic Object Relating In: Ruszczynski, S. and Fisher, J., Eds Intrusiveness and Intimacy in the Couple London: Karnac Books

This paper argues that narcissism and narcissistic object relations should not be considered to only delineate more disturbed ways of relating but as likely to inform aspects of all relationships at different times and to a greater or lesser extent.



(1995). Ruszczynski, S. and Fisher, J., Eds. Intrusiveness and Intimacy in the Couple. London: Karnac Books.



(1995) Vincent, C. Consulting to Divorcing Couples Family Law 25 678-681

This article describes a small scale pilot project looking at the nature of the problems presented to and the dynamics within consultations offered to individuals and couples who had an explicit divorce related problem. The consultants identified two frequently encountered presentations. The first was what might be called an excessively paranoid interaction when couples would be fighting each other over some aspect of the divorce process, very often, the children. The paper describes how excessive splitting and projection characterises these cases and how idealisation and/or denigration enters the transference to the consultant. The second type of case can be described as using a depressive defence to ward off destructive anxiety, most commonly encountered by individual clients, unable or hesitant to proceed with divorce for fear of the destructive consequences to the children involved. These presentations seemed to call forth a wish for the consultant to offer a magical solution to get round the feared destructive outcome.



(1995) Vincent, C. Love in the Countertransference Bulletin of the Society of Psychoanalytical Marital Psychotherapy 2 4-10

This article suggests that counter-transference is experienced as a combination of confused thoughts, actions and bodily states which may become manifest in both the consulting room and on its fringes. Effective shifts in therapy happen when those confused states are understood and acted upon so producing a gradual release from the grip of unconscious processes. Clinical examples from couple work are given.



(1995) Vincent, C. Review of Mullernder, A. & Morely, R .'Children Living with Domestic Violence: Putting Men’s Abuse of Women on the Child Care Agenda'. Journal of Child Psychology and Psychiatry 36 1



(1996) Clulow, C. Are Two Parents Necessary? In: Clulow, C., Ed. Partners Becoming Parents London: Sheldon

In this chapter the relationship between family structure and process is considered. Attention is focused on processes of fusion and differentiation that accompany the parenting cycle and affect adult partnerships. A contemporary view of the Oedipal situation is invoked to answer the question raised by the chapter title, which reverts attention to the relationship between the process raised at the outset.



(1996) Clulow, C. The Information Session National Council for Family Proceedings Newsletter 2-8

The text of a paper delivered at a conference orgainsed by the NCFP that critically assesses the proposal to include an information session as part of the mandatory procedures for securing a divorce under the 1996 Family Law Act.



(1996) Clulow, C. Introduction In: Clulow, C., Ed. Partners Becoming Parents London: Sheldon

This books examines the interplay between partnering and parenting roles from different professional perspectives. Two fundamental questions are addressed: how do children change the relationship between their parents, and what relevance has the adult couple relationship for healthy child development? It is based on a series of public lectures organised by the Tavistock Marital Studies Institute.



(1996) Clulow, C. Is Marriage Necessary? In: Haldane, D. Ed. Marriage Now: Asking Questions Edinburgh: Edinburgh Marriage Counselling Scotland

Published as one of a series of public lectures commissioned by Marriage Counselling Scotland on the occasion of the International Year of the Family, this paper considers the relationship-cum-institution of marriage as situated on the boundary between public and private worlds, and past and present realities, and considers its changing social and personal functions. The role of counselling/psychotherapy is considered in this context. A reply to the paper from the Hon Lord Clyde is included in the book.



(1996) Clulow, C. Preventing Marriage Breakdown: Towards a New Paradigm Sexual and Marital Therapy 11 4 343-351

A critical summary of three paradigms commonly used in relation to thinking about stratergies for preventing marriage breakdown; the policing, medical and educational models. The consultative model is proposed as a fourth paradigm and an area where there is considerable potential for development.



(1996) Colman, W. Aspects of Anima and Animus in Oedipal Development Journal of Analytical Psychology 41 1 37-57

This paper aims to insert the contrasexual archetype into the dynamic narrative of the Oedipus complex. Anima and animus are initially mediated by the oedipally loved parent and subsequent manifestations bear the imprint not only of the parent themselves but of the entire complex of object relationships in which Oedipal love is embedded. Successful resolution of the Oedipus complex depends on freeing the anima/animus from its Oedipal bonds so that its function as a bridge to the unconscious can be realised. The clinical material explores the damaging impact of a split paretnal couple on this process and the positive role of idealisation as a stimulus to psychic development.



(1996) Cudmore, L. Parenting Forum 2



(1996) Cudmore, L. Fertility Counselling: A Couple Approach Journal of Fertility Counselling 3 2


(1996) Cudmore, L. Infertility and the Couple In: Clulow, C., Ed.Eds Partners Becoming Parents London: Sheldon


(1996). Judd, D. and Erskine, A., Eds. The Imaginative Body - Psychodynamic Therapy in Healthcare. New Jersey: Jason Aronson.



(1996) Rosenthall, J. Love is Lovelier the Second Time Around In: Clulow, C., Ed. Partners Becoming Parents London: Sheldon

This paper describes how both past and prevailing ideology about stepfamilies needs to be rethought especially in the light of the present increase in numbers of complex family arrangements. There is a tendency to either denigrate stepmothers or else in the recent literature to relieve them of responsibilities and point a finger at the first mariage instead. This paper focuses on the couple relationship whilst keeping the family in mind; it argues that second marriages when they encounter difficulties can be overloaded with negative feelings, more so than first marriages; some of the reasons for this are discussed. there is an initial tendency to rely more heavily than usual on idealisation, having already suffered a marital breakdown and in addition there are often more external factors which contribute to a reawakening of Oedipal anxieties, such as children from the previous relationship/s and extra sets of parents-in-law.



(1996) Ruszczynski, S. Enid Balint and the Beginning of the Psychoanalytical Understanding and Treatment of the Marital Relationship Bulletin of the Society of Psychoanalytical Marital Psychotherapists 3 4-7

Ruszczynski's presentation to the Scientific Meeting of British Psychoanalytic Society commemorating the life and work of Enid Balint. The paper characterises Enid Balint's approach to the work using her own words "people never give up trying to put things right for themselves and for the people they love".



(1996) Ruszczynski, S. The Secret Contract in Marriage Family Secrets, British Association of Psychotherapists 6

The paper revisits the understanding of conscious and unconscious aspects of the couple relationship. Ruszczynski restates the centrality of the unconscious and secret bond which draws the partners to each other and organises their subsequent relating. A suggestion is made that the ambivalence which is at the heart of all couple relationships stems from the inevitable ambivalence experienced towards primary parental figures.



(1997) Clulow, C. Dictionary of Pastoral Counselling In: Knowledge, S. f. t. P. o. C., Ed.^Eds

As part of its tricentenary celebrations in 1998, the Society for the Promotion of Christian Knowledge is publishing a comprehensive Dictionalry of Pastoral Counselling. The dictionary will contain not only definitions but also mini essays of up to one thousand words summarising key issues in relation to the main entries. Christopher Clulow has been commissioned by the SPCK to submit thirteen entries in the field of marriage and couple work.



(1997) Clulow, C. Editorial: Communicating Across Therapeutic Cultures Sexual and Marital Therapy 12 1 3-4

Christopher Clulow's editorial in Sexual and Marital Therapy underscores his reason for and mission in taking on the role of Journal's Therapies Editor - seeking to communicate across professional disciplines to 'provide opportunities for a rich, multi-dimensional understanding of couples' relationships to emerge'.



(1997) Clulow, C. Roots of Irrationality in Marriage The Bulletin: Journal of Catholic Marriage Care 37 145 8-17

This address to the jubilee conference of Marriage Care contrasts the 'sense' of education strategies for preventing marriage breakdown with the 'sensibilities' of people fashioned by their early attachment experiences. Attention is paid to how strategies for managing attachment-related anxieties can be manifested in the way people talk, and the implications of this for 'talking therapies'.



(1997) Cudmore, L. The Loss of the Fantasy Baby Journal of Fertility Counselling 4 2 16-18

Mourning the Imagined Child. This paper explores the difficulties couples face when mourning a baby who has never been known in reality. With an ever increasing number of miracle treatments for infertility, couples face difficult decisions about when to stop treatment, face the reality of not having children and begin the mourning process. As the relationship with the imagined baby is a 'fantasy relationship' it is inevitably heavily laden with parental projections. The absence of a real baby makes mourning particularly difficult.



(1997) Cudmore, L. and Judd, D. The Impact of a Child's Death on the Parent's Relationship The Child Bereavement Trust

This paper discussed some preliminary thoughts about the impact of a child's death on the parent's relationship as a couple. When the paper was written, the research project that focused on this theme was still in its early stages. The paper looked broadly at the difficulties couples face when both partners are grieving as a result of traumatic loss, and when they mourn in different ways. The ideas were illustrated with two clinical examples.



(1997) Fisher, J., Crandell, L.E. Complex Attachment: Patterns of Relating in the Couple Sexual and Marital Therapy 12 3 211-223

This paper offers a preliminary description of a model of complex attachment in adult couple relationships that encompasses attachment theory and an object relations approach to couple functioning. The authors draw on the theorectical and empirical bases of the Strange Situation Test, the Adult Attachment Interview and data from a TMSI pilot study to formulate patterns of complex attachment. A conceptualisation of couple functioning is offered which allows for both the fixed and reciprocal ways in which one partner may act as the attachment figure for the other.



(1997) Hughes, L. and Pengelly, P. Staff Supervision in a Turbulent Environment London: Jessica Kingsley.

After many years of teaching on and developing TMSI's staff supervision courses, Lynette Hughes and Paul Pengelly, until recently senior staff members of TMSI, have written an invaluable book based on this work. Focuses on the interaction between supervisor and supervisee in the agency context and explores the interdependence of task and process in supervision. There are numerous examples from practice, and the book is highly welcome to current staff of the TMSI.



(1997) Judd, D. Mourning Journal of Fertility Counselling 4 2 19-20

This paper briefly explores the mourning process: from the infant's processing of inevitable losses to adult bereavement and its reverberations in the inner world. Obstacles to this normal process are considered. This abridged paper was part of a presentation to the British Infertility Counselling Association, and was clearly relevant to the couples facing infertility.



(1997) Judd, D. A Psychoanalytic Understanding of the Child with Cancer Newsletter of the Psychological Oncology Society 6-8

This article explains how a psychanalytic approach adds depth and breadth to the understanding of the child with cancer. It briefly looks at the impact of trauma; the parental function for the seriously ill child which the author conceptualises as a 'protective filter'; the application of 'containment'; institutional defences; the impact of separation; mourning, and contains a bibliography of over thirty titles.



(1997) Judd, D. Understanding the Inner World of the Child Magazine of the Family Therapy Association of Ireland 7 1 24-27

This paper briefly traces the development of the infant's inner world, from before birth, through to the development of phantasy, symbolisation, and play. Brief examples of children's struggles to make sense of the world are given, followed by a brief look at the psychic tasks of adolescence and some ways in which they can break down. This paper was delivered as part of a workshop on the Inner World of the Child given in Dublin in October 1996.



(1997) Judd, D. and Cudmore, L. The Impact of Child's Death on the Parent's Relationship In: Ed. A Portrait of Family Grief: Babies, Children, Trauma, Grief and Crisis London: Child Bereavement Trust

This paper discusses some preliminary thoughts about the impact of a child's death on the parent's relationship as a couple. When the paper was written, the research project that focused on this theme was still in its early stages. The paper looks broadly at the difficulties couples face when both partners are grieving as a result of traumati



(1997) Mattinson, J. The Deadly Equal Triangle London: Tavistock Marital Studies Institute.


(1997). Morgan, M. F., J., Ed. Sexualities and the Couple.



(1997) Ruszczynski, S. Facts of Life Relate Annual Review 14-15

In a specially commissioned editorial article the argument is put forward that an apparent opposition between individuality and intimate attachment is a misconception. The two are interwoven with each other; true intimacy rests on the recognition of the separateness of the other; true independence rests on the recognition of the need for the other. It is considered that this 'fact of life' gives permanence to the intimate couple relationship, whatever social/cultural/political influences come along to shape the specificity of that relating.



(1997) Ruszczynski, S. Oedipus Revisited: Transference Enactments Psychoanalytic Couple Psychotherapy, Interazioni 2 11-26

In this paper it is argued that the couple relationship, created and nurtured by the two marital partners should be considered as a psychic object in its own right which, symbolically constitutes the third element in the marital relationship. The 'marital triangle' creates a space within which it is possible to think about the separate needs of the two partners and also the needs of the relationship; it may also help contain a possible real third object such as a baby. The degree to which couples are able to create this 'marital triangle' rests on the degree to which each partner, both separately or together, can work through earlier oedipal anxieties.



(1997) Shmueli, A. and Clulow, C. Marital Therapy: Definition and Development Current Opinion in Psychiatry 10 247-250

Marital therapy: the past year reviewed. A brief review paper for Current Opinion in Psychiatry focused on the contemporary practice of marital therapy from a wide range of theoretical perspectives as evidenced by English language publications over the past year. In highlighting the couple as 'patient' it became clear that whilst the marital field was alive, Luborsky's 'Dodo Verdict' (1975) on individual psychotherapy (that 'all therapies work and all must have prizes'), equally applies to the field of marital therapy. The past year has seen some important papers on research issues within the marital field, which have also illustrated the need for research from the psychoanalytic community. the review underlined the need for greater clarity and definition of both theoretical and clinical work.



(1997) Vincent, C. The Impact of the Client's Emotional State Newsletter of the National Council for Family Proceedings 11 11-14

This paper builds on the 'Consulting to Divorcing Couples' article in Family Law (December 1995). The paper discusses the models of consultation used in the project and draws a distinction made by Bridger (Malcolm Miller Lecture 1989, AUP) between a client-centred and a consultant-centred model of consultation. The paper also analyses in detail case illustrations of the paranoid and pseudo-depressive patterns of presenation found in the divorcing sample.



(1998) Clulow, C. Gender, Attachment and Communication in Marriage Sexual and Marital Therapy 13 4 449-640

This is the text of a paper presented at the meeting of the Commissions on Marriage and Interpersonal Relations of the International Union of Family Organisations in Oxford on 28 June 1998. It considers communication patterns in partnerships as function of gender and as a reflection of attachment styles that transcend gender.



(1998) Haldane, D. and Vincent, C. Threesomes in Psychodynamic Couple Psychotherapy Sexual and Marital Therapy 13 4 385-396

The paper seeks to unravel some of the reasons why threesome therapy with couples is relatively under-reported when compared to the literature on co-therapy with couples. They suggest that the dynamics of threesome relationships undermine the thinking capacity of therapists working in this mode. It is difficult for the single therapist to establish a satisfactory working distance from the client couple because it revives oedipal anxieties.



(1998) Haldane, D. and Vincent, C. The Zone Therapist, the Couple and Their Problem: Reflection on Threesomes Bulletin of the Society of Psychoanalytical Marital Psychotherapists 5 10-17

Douglas Haldane, who is an honorary member of SPMP, collaborated with Christopher Vincent in writing this paper which seeks to unravel some of the reasons why threesome therapy with couples is relatively under-reported when compared to the literature on co-therapy with couples. They suggest that the dynamics of threesome relationships undermine the thinking capacity of therapists working in this mode. It is difficult for the single therapist to establish a satisfactory working distance from the client couple because it revives oedipal anxieties . Feelings of exclusion, on the one hand, or being overwhelmed on the other, are commonly encountered. Feelings of shame may also be elicited if the focus on the couple is lost and alliances with one of the clients at the expense of the other are made.



(1998) Lanman, M. The Human Container: Containment as an Active Process Psychodynamic Counselling 4 4 463-472

This paper reviews the use of the concept of containment in social work and counselling, and aims to clarify its original psychoanalytic meaning. Different uses of the term are discussed, and it is argued that the concept has become weakened in its widespread application. Examples are provided to illustrate the need for active work to make sense of what is presented by clients, as opposed to passover receptivity.



(1998) Lanman, M. Seeing Couples Counselling 9 3 217-218

The paper illustrates how couples can present for help by describing three brief case vignettes. In the first case where the couple were seen together, all the difficulties were located in the "useless" partner. In the second example, the author shows how the "here and now" of the transference could be used to help the client with a couple relationship at home. Finally, the last vignette illustrates how a couple's psychic equilibrium or defence can be maintained even when a substantial shift in behaviour takes place in the relationship.



(1998) Ruszczynski, S. The 'Marital Triangle': Towards 'Triangular Space' in the Intimate Couple Relationship Journal of the British Association of Psychotherapists 34 31 33-47

In this paper it is argued that the couple relationship, created and nurtured by two marital partners should be considered as a psychic object in its own right which, therefore, symbolically constitutes the third element in the marital triangle. This 'marital triangle' creates a space within which it is possible to think about the separate needs of the two partners and also the needs of the relationship; it may also help contain a possible real third object such as a baby.



(1999) Clulow, C. Bindungsmuster und Kommuniation in der Ehe Wege Zum Menschen 51 6 319-331

This is the text of a paper given at a meeting of the commission on Marriage and International Relations of the International Union of Family Organisations in Oxford. It considers communication patterns in partnerships as a function of gender and as a reflection of attachment styles that transcend gender.



(1999) Fisher, J. The Univited Guest: Emerging from Narcissism Towards Marriage and Marital Therapy London: Karnac.

This book brings together the insights of psychoanalysis and their application to work with troubled couples with an original and closely argued reading of some classic plays about marriage. Marriage is conceptualised as 'the inheritor of the tension and the intimacy of the Oedipal drama', making the couple relationship a potent place for therapeutic intervention, as well as for exploration in drama.



(1999) Haldane, D. and Vincent, C. Threesomes in Psychodynamic Couple Psychotherapy Sexual and Marital Therapy 13 4 385-396

There is a dearth of literature on the implications for therapists working on their own with both spouses or partners (threesomes) and even less on their dynamics as a three-person system. This paper seeks to fill a gap in the literature and to explore some aspects of the experience of working in this mode. The paper places current threesome practice in context by locating it within the overall development of couple psychotherapy and counselling in the UK and by referring to important texts in the professional and research literature. The authors suggest that two major difficulties inherent in threesome couple work explain why professional reflection is absent in this area of practice. First, the emotional power of couple dynamics can result in the therapist feeling either overwhelmed or, alternatively, excluded. In both cases the capacity for professional self-reflection is either minimal or attacked. Second, therapists working on their own may experience shame when their focus on the couple is lost and alliances with one partner at the expense of the other are formed.



(1999) Lanman, M. Clinical Commentary British Journal of Psychotherapy 16 1 81-93

Monica Lanman wrote one of three commentaries on an anonymous piece of clinical work with a couple. This is a detailed textual commentary from a clinical perspective, noting the points at which material could have been taken up in transference, the clues to the transference in the text and the consequences of not thinking about the session in this way.



(1999) Olney, F. and Wheeler, J. Supervision Within a Creative Partnership Professional Social Work 10-11

This account, jointly written by a manager from Westminster Social Services and the TMSI trainer, describes an eight-year partnership between the two organisations during which a supervision programme was delivered to first line managers in the Children and Families Division. The importance of the partnership between Westminster's management and TMSI is acknowledged as being central to the success of the work.



(1999) Stanton, M. Primal Absence and Loss In: Mann, D., Ed. Erotic Transference and Countertransference: Clinical Practice in Psychotherapy London: Routledge

This clinical paper examines alternative uses of the idea of transference in relationship to primal absence and loss. The case involves a patient who produced a series of sculptures during the course of therapy and the paper explores how these sculptures captured the developing aspects of erotic transference and countertransference.



(1999) Tarsh, H. and Bollinghaus, E. Shared Unconscious Phantasy: Reality or Illusion? Sexual and Marital Therapy 14 2

This article explores the concept of shared unconscious phantasy in the context of work with a couple. It demonstrates how a couple can be drawn together on the basis of a shared unconscious phantasy and how the partners can defend themselves from conscious knowledge of this phantasy through a mutually defensive projective system, which in this case eventually led to the breakdown of the relationship. The clinical marital illustrates in detail the therapeutic task of understanding and uncovering the phantasy through working with transference and countertransference relationships.



(2000) Clulow, C. Marriage/Relationship Counselling In: Davis, M., Ed. The Blackwell Encyclopaedia of Social Work Oxford: Blackwell

Encyclopaedia entry defining marriage and relationship counselling.



(2000) Clulow, C. Supporting Marriage in the Theatre of Divorce In: Thorpe, M., Ed. No Fault or Flaw: The Future of the Family Law Act 1996 Bristol: Jordan

An examination of how changing judicial procedures might affect interdisciplinary relationships in the family justice system. A critique of the measures in the 1996 Family Law Act aimed at supporting marriage, focusing on psychological processes and their potential for affecting how proposed procedures might work out.



(2000) Judd, D. The Never Land - Loss of an Idealised Pre-birth Place and the Gain of a Thinking Mind Journal of Child Psychotherapy 26 2 235-257


(2000) Vincent, C. Clinical Reflections on Unresolved and Unclassifiable States of Mind In: Clulow, C., Ed. Adult Attachment and couple Psychotherapy: The Secure Base in Practice and Research Hove: Brunner Routledge

This chapter (7) considers the possibility that the adult attachment classifications of 'unresolved' and 'cannot classify' may illuminate two frequently encountered clinical phenomena when working with couples. The first concerns those situations where couples and their therapists experience sudden eruptions of disturbing anger, which in turn, produce a 'walking on eggshells' counter-transference. It is argued that the unresolved classification may help understand these dynamics. The second situation is produced by those couples perspective where there is a sense of non-relating. It is argued that from a couple perspective the attachment system has broken down in the face of mutually contradictory attachment patters between the couple which mirrors the cannot classify more usually applied to the breakdown of the attachment system within the individual.



(2000) Vincent, C. Sexuality and the Older Woman London: Pennell Initiative for Women's Health.

This literature review takes forward an earlier study by the Pennell Initiative for Women's Health that identified the major health challenges faced by women in the second half of life. This study takes each health condition in turn and reviews how sexual health is implicated. The detailed review is framed by a historical overview of how female sexuality, particularly in the second half of life, has been constructed by western society and concluded by examining how current government health policies take account of sexual health concerns.



(2001). Clulow, C., Ed. Adult Attachment and Couple Psychotherapy: The 'Secure Base' in Practice and Research. London: Brunner-Routledge.



(2001) Clulow, C. Couples in Transition In: Morton, A., Ed. Couples in Transition: Integrity and Brokenness Edinburgh: Centre for Theology and Public Issues, University of Edinburgh Occasional paper no. 46.

An overview of changes affecting the public and private faces of marriage, assessing its contemporary purposes and focusing on psychological functions of the couple relationships.



(2001) Clulow, C. Obituary for A.C. Robin Skynner Sexual and Relationship Therapy 16 2 423-425


(2001) Clulow, C., Riddell, J., Shmueli, A. Working with Intangible Loss In: Clulow, C., Ed. Adult Attachment and Couple Psychotherapy London: Brunner-Routledge

The dilemmas faced by a couple in dealing with unresolved loss are considered from both an attachment and psychoanalytic perspective. Loss is personal history is reflected in issues surrounding the ending of the therapy itself.



(2001). Grier, F., Ed. Brief Encounters with Couples: Some Analytic Perspectives. London: Karnac Books.



(2001) Grier, F. No Sex Couples, Catastrophic Change and the Primal Scene British Journal of Psychotherapy

In this paper, Francis Grier investigates some of the problems faced by the couple and the clinician when the presenting problem is that the couple do not have sex. The paper focuses on exploring the difference against the pain that ensues from unconsciously facing the primal scene aspect of the Oedipus situation, and how the proposal of dismantling these defences feels catastrophic to certain couples. The paper discusses the theoretical dimension of these cases and of how a clinical understanding of the problems can help some couples work through these problems.



(2001) Hewison, D. Review of Hauke, C. 'Jung and the Postmodern'. Routledge, London Journal of Analytical Psychology 46 3 535-538


(2001) Judd, D. 'To Walk the Last Bit on My Own' - Narcissistic Independence or Identification with Good Objects Journal of Child Psychotherapy



(2001) Olney, F. The Counsellor and the Couple Counselling in Practice 7 1 7

Felicia Olney addresses some of the issues increasingly faced by counsellors in settings such as primary care. She points out that "couple" problems may present in a variety of ways and may be overlooked by professionals, including counsellors, whose primary training may not have included working with couples. She argues for counsellors to "think couple" and suggests that TMSI courses such as Couple Work for Counsellors in Organisational Settings may help counsellors to adopt this perspective.



(2001) Olney, F. Management, Supervision and Practice Professional Social Work 10-11

This paper argues that there are similarities between social work management and practice than is more commonly recognised, and that these are particularly highlighted in supervision. She argues that whilst social workers need to recognise the "authority" inherent in their casework, so too, do managers need to recognise the need for "process" skills when managing staff.



(2001) Vincent, C. Giving Advice During Consultations: Unconscious Enactment as Thoughtful Containment In: Grier, F., Ed. Brief Encounters with Couples: Some Analytical Perspectives London: Karnac Books

This chapter explores the meaning of a consultant giving specific advice to divorcing parents concerning their children's needs. The author considers in what ways his advice giving might be considered an enactment. Possibilities include being in identification with the children and voicing their needs, giving voice to 'absent' parents and attempting to separate a psychically fused couple who are unable to reflect on their experience. The paper also places advice giving within the context of client-centred and consultant-centred consultancy models.



(2001) Vincent, C. Review of Hauke, C., 'Jung and Postmodern: The Interpretation of Realities'. London, Routledge Journal of Analytical Psychology 46 3 538-540


(2002) Clulow, C. Various entries on marriage In: Carr, W. The New Dictionary of Pastoral Studies London: SPCK

Entries on: adultery, bigamy, couple counselling, divorce, marriage counselling, mixed marriage, monogamy, polygamy, premarital counselling, remarriage, single parents and step family.



(2002) Rosenthall, J. Couple Counselling Within Primary Care Healthcare Counselling and Psychotherapy Journal 2 33

This article describes and reviews services to couples available nationally. It offers a debate about the dilemma that most couples use their GP as their first port of call and yet services are available primarily in the voluntary sector. In addition more training is needed for this area of work.



(2002) Rosenthall, J. Second Time Round Famiglie Ricostituite e Nuove Filiazioni 1 41-52


(2002) Rosenthall, J. Sharing a Heart - The Dilemma of a Fused Couple SPMP Bulletin

This paper explores the theoretical and technical challenges of working with a couple who are linked to each other adhesively. By using an example from the Balkans, in which people are no longer able to think, but instead use rigid and meaningless categories to describe themselves and others. A link is made with a couple who defensively stay together in a barren way for fear of being separate but cannot manage any relating. The paper explores some of the possible reasons for this kind of connection - namely an early developmental failure which can leave individuals without a sufficiently developed mental apparatus, described in the literature as a psychic skin. The paper argues that a failure to apprehend this level and kind of difficulty, might not only impede the therapeutic work, but even resulting in the couple constructing as more resilient defensive outer layer.



(2003) Clulow, C. An Attachment Perspective on Reunions in Couple Psychoanalytic Psychotherapy Journal of Applied Psychoanalytic Studies 5 3

Psychoanalysis has been slow to acknowledge theory as one of its own. Yet traditions of observational and representational research associated with it have much to offer in shedding light on intrapsychic as well as interpersonal phenomena. This paper explores these traditions and their potential clinical utility for couple psychoanalytic psychotherapy. In particular, attention is drawn to behaviour and representations associated with the experience of reunion in therapy sessions.



(2003) Clulow, C. Foreword In: D'Ardenne, P. Ed The Counselling of Couple in Healthcare Settings: a Handbook for Clinicians London: Whurr


(2003) Clulow, C., Vincent, C. Working with Divorcing Partners In: Bell, M, Ed. The Practitioners Guide to Working with Families. Basingstoke: Palgrave Macmillan

Drawing on clinical practice and action research the authors describe some unconscious processes operating within families and in relation to practitioners during the transitions of separation and divorce. These are understood within the conceptual frameworks of attachment theory and Klenian object relations theory. Particular attention is paid to the operation of defensive processes against anxiety triggered by the experience of separation and loss, and implications for professional practice are explored.



(2003) Davenhill, R., Balfour, A., Rustin, M., Blanchard, M., Tress, K. Looking into Later Life: Psychodynamic Observation and Old Age Psychoanalytic Psychotherapy 17 3 253-266

Psychodynamic observation has been used successfully as a core component of training for child and adult psychotherapists with the NHS. This paper will describe the use of the psychodynamic observational method in the multidisciplinary training of health professionals working with older adults.  In taking on the role of receptive observer within the framework provided by the psychodynamic observational method, it is hoped that the observer will come closer to the older person's experience and develop an attuned capacity to see and retain detail. In becoming aware of the emotional impact the interplay between the individual and their environment may produce, participants will learn from their own experience about factors, conscious and unconscious, which can support or impede development and adjustment to transitions in the later part of life. It allows thinking in depth to take place about the experience of the older person as well as the difficulties encountered in the caring role. The first half of the paper will describe the 'how to' of setting up a psychodynamic observation. The second half will describe two observations, one in a more normative setting of an outpatient health clinic for older people, and the other in a nursing home where the older person and staff are confronted with a greater degree of physical and mental deterioration.



(2003) Evans, C., Grier, F., Lanman, M Objectivity in Psychoanalytic Assessment of Couple Relationships British Journal of Psychiatry 182 255-260


(2003) Grier, F. and Lanman, M. Evaluation of Change in Couple Functioning: a Psychoanalytic Perspective Sexual and Relationship Therapy 18 1



(2003) Hewison, D. 'Oh Rose, Thou Art Sick!': Anti-Individuation Forces in the Film 'American Beauty' Journal of Analytical Psychology 48 683-704

The film American Beauty is used as a vehicle to explore difficulties in the individuation process, to look at a particular aspect of couple relationships in which mourning is avoided, and to make a general comment about the relationship between film and psychological experience. The thesis of the paper is that the individuation process is both an intra-psychic experience and inter-psychic one which relies on relationships with external figures to enable development. The adult couple relationship is taken as one of the key areas of emotional life for the individuation process and as an area that cab best show up false starts, successes, or even retreats in psychological development. Using the poetry of William Blake and the work of Michael Fordham, I show a process of anti-individuation going on in the relationship between the characters of Lester and Carolyn Burnham in the film.



(2003) Hewison, D. Review of Casement, P. 'Learning From Our Mistakes: Beyond Dogma in Psychoanalysis and Psychotherapy'. Hove, Brunner-Routledge Journal of Analytical Psychology 48 729-30


(2003) Hewison, D. Review of Gunn, D. 'Wool Gathering or How I Ended Analysis'. Hove, Brunner-Routledge Journal of Analytical Psychology 48 1 124-125


(2003) Hewison, D. Review of Mathers, D., 'An Introduction to Meaning and Purpose in Analytical Psychology'. Hove, Brunner-Routledge Psychology and Psychotherapy: Theory, Research and Practice 76 1 103-104

(2003) Hewison, D. Searching for the Facts in the Clinical Setting with Couples Journal of Analytical Psychology 48 341-354

This paper describes a research proposal to examine whether or not the underlying analytic concepts behind the couple psychoanalytic psychotherapy model used at the Tavistock Marital Studies Institute in London are sufficiently coherent, both conceptually and clinically, to be used as the basis for a system of audit which respects the unique data produced in analytic psychotherapy. This 'psychoanalytic' system of audit is one which is characterised particularly by the use of the therapists' subjectivity, rather than attempts to be objective and gather data through such things as random controlled trials or generic outcome questionnaires. The paper describes the approach to the subject and the mix of qualitive and quantative methods used. As the Tavistock Marital Studies Institute has a history of contact with Jungian analysts from the Society of Analytical Psychology, Jungian concepts are included in the model. The research is part of a professional doctorate in couple psychoanalytic psychotherapy at the Tavistock Marital Studies in conjunction with the University of East London, entitled 'Conceptualising audit in Couple Psychoanalytic Psychotherapy'.


(2003) Lanman, M. Assessment for Couple Psychoanalytic Psychotherapy British Journal of Psychotherapy 19 3 A therapist assessing with a view to couple psychoanalytic psychotherapy needs to hold several potentially conflicting points of view in mind simultaneously. Firstly the therapist attends to the experience of the session as an interaction with the 'shared internal world' of the couple, in the present, seeking to understand the dynamic meaning of whatever happens in the course of the meeting. At the same time the assessor needs to explore the question of appropriateness of different possible treatments, which may necessitate explicitly seeking certain kinds of information, relating, for example, to early experience or to risk assessment. The various points of view can be felt to be in conflict with each other, and I suggest that different parts of this complex enterprise are unfamiliar to, and may be neglected by different professional groups.

(2003) Lanman, M., and Grier, F. Evaluating Change in Couple Functioning: a Psychoanalytic Perspective Sexual and Relationship Therapy 18 1 13-24

To date, most measures used to assess couples' relationships have been based on self-report by each individual, without a formula for reaching a combined 'couple score'. On the other hand, there are a few 'observational' measures which assess the interaction between partners on the basis of taped interviews with couples. These instruments tend to be tightly tied to overt verbal sequences of behaviour. Both these approaches have been applied predominantly to the study of cognitive behavioural or eclectic therapies, although providing some research evidence that the more 'insight orientated' approachees achieve more lasting change. The authors wished to find or develop a measure which could explore the quality of change resulting from different types of therapy, including 'insight orientated' approaches. In particular, an instrument is needed which can pick up the type of changes sought by psychoanalytically orientated therapy, since these may not show a simple correlation with established self-report or observational measures. A measure is discussed which evaluates the aspects of interaction of which the couple may be unaware, using clinical inference as well as observation.


(2003) Lanman, M., Grier, F. and Evans, C. Objectivity in Psychoanalytic Assessment of Couple Relationships British Journal of Psychiatry 182 255-260

Psychoanalytic couple psychotherapists are concerned with aspects of couples' functioning that the couple initially may be unaware of. This form of therapy aims to facilitate change in the relationship between the partners. It focuses not simply on partners as individuals and not only on the conscious and rational level, but also on the interaction between partners that operates unconsciously, which, if not engaged with, can interfere powerfully with the possibility of lasting change. The approach considers a couple's relationship in terms of how the functioning of the two individuals can be perceived as fitting together to form one predominant joint mode of relating. This paper describes the trial of a measure that assesses this shared underlying 'fit'. Such assessment requires that the assessor is trained in perceiving unconscious processes, both in themselves and in their patients, and also is accustomed to thinking of couples as a unit in this sense.


(2003) Shmueli, A. Review of Manuscript Ref 130-3: The Adult Attachment Q-Set (AABQ): An Observational Measure of Dyadic Interaction Based on the Adult Attachment Interview Attachment and Human Development



(2004) Balfour, A. The couple, their marriage, and Oedipus: or, problems come in twos and threes In: Grier, F., Ed. Oedipus and the Couple London: Karnac

(2004) Clulow, C. Loss, Anxiety and the Capacity to Change In: Orthofer, M., Ed. Meditation und Kinderbegleitung Vienna: Bundesministerium fur Soziale Sicherheit, Generationen und Konsumentenschutz



(2004) Clulow, C. Reflections on the Commission on Couple and Family Relationships. In: New Harmonies: Families Holding Relationship, Work and the Generations in Balance. Leuven: Proceedings from the 50th International Conference of the International Commission on Couple and Family Relationships 2003


(2004) Clulow, C. Review of Knox, J (2003). Archetype, Analysis, Attachment. Jungian Psychology and the Emergent Mind. Journal of Analytical Psychology 49 3 456-458


(2004) Hewison, D. Critical Review of Shamdasani, S., 'Jung and the making of modern psychology: the dream of a science'. Cambridge, Cambridge University Press Journal of Analytical Psychology 49 4 576-581

(2004) Critical Notice of: Shamdasani, S

(2004) Lanman, M. The painful truth In: Grier, F., Ed. Oedipus and the Couple London: Karnac

(2004) Morgan, M. On being able to be a couple: the importance of a "creative couple" in psychic life In: Grier, F., Ed. Oedipus and the Couple London: Karnac


(2004) Rosenthall, J. Oedipus gets married: an investigation of a couple's shared oedipal drama In: Grier, F., Ed. Oedipus and the Couple London: Karnac


(2005) Abse, S. Couple Psychoanalytic Psychotherapy The Psychotherapist 27 Summer 9-10

Susanna Abse writes about couple psychotherapy, relationship counselling and psychosexual therapy in the The Psychotherapist, the journal of the United Kingdom Council for Psychotherapy.


(2005) Clulow, C. Couples and parenting: missing the link? Couples and Parenting. Sexual and Relationship Therapy 20 3


(2005) Clulow, C. Partnership and Marriage. In: Raynor, E,, Rose, J., Twyman, M. and Clulow, C, Eds Human Development. An Introduction to the Psychodynamics of Growth, Maturity and Ageing. London: Brunner Routledge


(2005) Cudmore, L. Becoming parents in the context of loss Couples and Parenting. Sexual and Relationship Therapy 20 3


(2005) Hewison, D. Sex and the Imagination in Therapy and Supervision Psychoanalytic Perspectives on Couple Work 1 72-87

This paper explores links between sex and the imagination. It looks at a contemporary Kleinian view of the place of the primal scene in adult mental and imaginative life, and critiques the use that the British psycho-analyst, Ron Britton, makes of the French philosopher of the imagination, Gaston Bachelard, in support of his view that it is the 'other room' in the mind where the parents are imagined to be having sex. I suggest that Britton has narrowed-down the implications of Bachelard's thinking, and that it is more akin to Jungian conceptions of the imagination than psycho-analytic ones. This echoes the differences between Jung's case study of a child, 'Anna' and Freud's 'Little Hans'. I illustrate this with an extended clinical example from a supervision of a couple therapy with a couple who are experiencing striking difficulties in consummating their marriage. I conclude with a reflection on the impact of the imagination on the supervisory relationship as well as on the couple relationship.


(2005) Lanman, M. Come essere uno in ude: la terapia psicoanalitica di coppia. Ricerca Psicoanalitica XVI 2


(2005) Morgan, M. Assessing couples for psychoanalytic psychotherapy Mellanrummet 12


(2005) Shmueli, A. On thinking of parents as adults in divorce and separation Couples and Parenting. Sexual and Relationship Therapy 20 3

Through examining templates of situations between divorcing couples offered in HM Government's Next Steps package, this paper argues for thinking about divorcing parents as adult couples whose dilemmas would benefit from consideration from a psychotherapeutic perspective. Four templates are examined, and in each case an important aspect of what occurred is considered as a manifestation of the couple's shared internal psychological functioning. This reinforces the view that adult functioning is paramount for functioning well as a parent, and implies a need for joint working between child and family services, especially those specifically for adults.


(2006) Abse, S. Review of White, Kate (Ed). Attachment and Sexuality in Clinical Practice. The John Bowlby Memorial Conference Monograph 2004. London: Karnac, 2005. Journal of Analytical Psychology 51 1 156-158


(2006) Abse, S. When a problem shared is a problem. Who's illness is it anyway? Questions of technique when working with a borderline couple. Psychoanalytic Perspectives on Couple Work 2



(2006) Balfour, A. Thinking about the experience of dementia: The importance of the unconscious Journal of Social Work Practice 20 No. 3 329-346

This paper explores the challenge of comprehending the experiences of dementia, and highlights the importance of understanding unconscious processes both at the level of the individual with dementia, and at the level of care-giving relationships in formal and informal settings. The contribution of insights from the research and clinical literature to understanding what may be happening at an unconscious level in dementia care settings is reviewed, and the implications for our understanding of the psychological needs of people with dementia and their carers are discussed.


(2006) Clulow, C. Couple psychotherapy and attachment theory In: Savege Scharff, J. and. Scharff., D, Eds New Paradigms for Treating Relationships New York:: Aronson

This chapter reviews the place of attachment theory in psychoanalytic work with couples. From the tradition of observing mother-infant interactions, and the representation of states of mind through narrative styles, it considers the nature of emotional truth and the role of mirroring in creating a sense of self. These perspectives are applied to the adult couple relationship, with a clinical illustration of the significance of reunions for couple psychotherapy.


(2006) Clulow, C. Working with Difficult Couples in the Family Justice System In: Thorpe, Ed. Durable Solutions: The Collected Papers of the 2005 Dartington Hall Conference Bristol: Family Law

The assumption underlying this paper is that the key to finding durable solutions to problematic family processes affecting children in the family justice system lies in the relationship between their parents. Different kinds of anxiety accompanying family change are examined and illustrated and some conclusions are drawn for professional practice.


(2006) Hewison, D. Art and the human psyche in a changing world. Journal of the British Association of Psychotherapists. 44 (1) 68-75

This paper is part of a public lecture series run by the British Association of Psychotherapists aimed at exploring contemporary issues in the modern world. It was delivered in conjunction with a presentation by the artist and art-critic Mathew Collings. It focused on two different things: firstly, some thoughts and questions about the nature of the artistic process from the point of view of a paper by CG. Jung on artistic creation, and secondly, the problems that art faces us with today. These are - how to determine what is art and what is not; how to encourage more of it; and how to understand what it has to say to us.


(2006) Hewison, D. Contribution to a Review of the Role of Dreams in Couple Therapy: "La Vita Onirica nella coupia e nalla Famiglia" Interazioni - Clinica e Ricerca Psicoanalitica su Individuo-coppia-famiglia 2 26 63-64


(2006) Hewison, D. Journal Review of Casement, P., "The Emperors New Clothes: Some serious problems in psychoanalytic training" International Journal of Psychoanalysis, 2005, 86, Part IV, pp.1143-60 Journal of Analytical Psychology 51 4 607-609


(2006) Hewison, D. Psychotherapie psychanalytic de couple au Tavistock Centre for Couple Relationships, a Londres Dialogue. Recherches Cliniques et Sociologiques sur le Couple et la Famille Therapie psychoanalytique 2 53 - 72

Cet article decrit le development de l'approche psychoanalytic de la therapie de couple au Tavistock Centre for Couple Relationships (auparavant Tavistock Marital Studies Institute). Il donne un apercu de quelques theories cles et de la pratique consistant a recevoir les couples en co-therapie. La notion de "faits Cliniques" est utilisee en lien avec un fragment de recherché clinique pour eclairer differentes perspectives de cette therapie psychoanalytic.



(2006) Hewison, D. Supervising Couple Psychoanalytic Psychotherapy: A View from the Tavistock Centre for Couple Relationships British Association for Psychoanalytic and Psychodynamic Supervision Newsletter December 2-5

This short paper gives an overview of the distinctive tradition of training and thinking in staff supervision and its links to the supervision of clinical work with couples. In particular it focuses on the need to think about the setting of the work, the reflection process between the work and the supervision (including in group discussion of practice), and the need to focus on the supervisee's professional rather than personal development. It ends with a suggestion about how the supervisor may need to change the way they supervise as the supervisee develops.



(2006) Lanman, M. Working with Couples Healthcare Counselling and Psychotherapy Journal April 18-20

This article discusses the reasons for and difficulties involved in seeing couples together. It presents some theoretical ideas about couple functioning. It aims to interest counsellors in health settings in becoming more 'couple minded'



(2006) Rosenthall, J. Where is My Mother? Infant Observation 9 3 281-293

This paper offers an account of an infant observation experience in which the observer moves from an initial position in which there was a tendency to 'see problems' and pathologize, to one where it was possible to understand and recognize an ordinary but nevertheless distressing process of learning,
accommodating and building a connection, which needs to take place between all mothers and new babies.



(2006) Shmueli, A. A Meeting of the minds? Family Law May 22-24

As couple therapy becomes more common, clinical psychologist Dr Avi Shmueli explains one approach to divorce and suggests how lawyers might use it to their client's advantage.



(2007) Abse, S. Review of Coles, P., (Ed). Sibling Relationships. London: Karnac Books, 2006. Journal of Analytical Psychology 52 4 509-511


(2007) Balfour, A. Factors, Phenomenolgy and Psychoanalytic Contributions to Dementia Care In: Davenhill, R. Ed. Looking Into Later Life. A Psychoanalytic Approach to Depression, Dementia and Old Age London: Karnac


(2007) Balfour, A. and Amos, A. Couple Psychotherapy: Separateness or Separation? In: Davenhill, R. Ed. Looking Into Later Life. A Psychoanalytic Approach to Depression, Dementia and Old Age London: Karnac


(2007) Balfour, A., Davenhill, R., Rustin, M. Psychodynamic Observation and Old Age In: Davenhill, R. Ed Looking into Later Life. A Psychoanalytic Approach to Depression, Dementia and Old Age London: Karnac


(2007) Clulow, C. Attachment, Couples and the Talking Cure Therapy Today 18 6



(2007) Clulow, C. Attachment, Idealisation and Violence in Couple Relationships Psychoanalytic Perspectives on Couple Work 3 11-24


(2007) Clulow, C. Can Attachment Theory help define what is mutative in Couple Psychoanalytic Psychotherapy? In: Ludlam, M. and Nyberg., V, Eds Couple Attachments: Theoretical and Clinical Studies London: Karnac


(2007) Clulow, C. John Bowlby and Couple Psychotherapy Attachment and Human Development 9 4 343 - 353


(2007) Clulow, C. Marriage, Partnership and Adult Attachment Sexual and Relationship Therapy 22 3



(2007) Hewison, D. The Power of Our Attachment to Theory - Or Oedipus meets Ganesh. In: Ludlam, M. and Nyberg, V., Eds. Couple Attachments: Theoretical and Clinical Studies London: Karnac


(2007) Morgan, M. What Does Ending Mean in Couple Psychotherapy? Psychoanalytic Perspectives on Couple Work 3 50-62


(2007) Rosenthall, J. Sharing A Heart: The Dilemma of a Fused Couple British Journal of Psychotherapy 23 3

In this paper the writer explores the work with a couple whom she came to think of psychically like Siamese twins, stuck together in order to survive and lacking separate psychic entities with intact coverings. Such a covering is something that we take for granted and which implies that each of us is a separate individual. However, this paper draws attention to the way that some individuals, who have not developed a robust enough sense of identity, might seek a desperate solution, by partnering with someone who shares their dilemma. Being ‘stuck’ together can help stave off intolerable anxieties but tends to raise claustrophobic anxieties. The paper investigates how the underlying anxieties are primitive and serious, and the terrors which are being defended against are often in the area of suicide or breakdown so that, although couple therapy can help to loosen this deadly structure, a more containing intensive individual treatment is likely to be necessary to support the process of individuation.


(2008) Atkinson, E. and Murray, C. Infertility: The Perspective of a Couple Therapist Journal of Fertility Counselling Vol 15 2 17-20


(2008) Boerma, M. ‘Marriage as a Psychological Container': Another perspective. SCPP Psychoanalytic Perspectives in Couple Work 2008 4 53-55


(2008) Hewison, D. Journal Review of Target, M. 'Is our sexuality our own? A developmental model of sexuality based on early affect mirroring', British Journal of Psychotherapy, October 2007, 23, 4, pp 517-30 Journal of Analytical Psychology 53 4 580-582


(2008) Hewison, D. Review of Glocer Fiorini, L., Bokanowski, T. & Lewkowicz, S. (Eds). On Freud's 'Mourning and Melancholia'. London: International Psychoanalytic Association, 2007. Pp. 240. Journal of Analytical Psychology 53 3 449-450


(2008) Novakovic, A. Service Evaluation of Multidisciplinary Therapy on an Acute Psychiatric Ward Mental Health Review Journal 13 3 32-39


(2009) Abse, S. Sexual Dread and the Therapist's Desire In: Clulow, C., Ed. Sex, Attachment and Couple Psychotherapy: Psychoanalytic Perspectives London: Karnac


(2009) Balfour, A. Intimacy and Sexuality in Later Life In: Clulow, C., Ed. Sex, Attachment and Couple Psychotherapy: Psychoanalytic Perspectives London: Karnac


(2009) Boerma, M. and Clulow, C. Dynamics and Disorders of Sexual Desire In: Clulow, C., Ed. Sex, Attachment and Couple Psychotherapy: Psychoanalytic Perspectives London: Karnac


(2009) Clulow, C. Intergenerational Pathways linking attachment security in parents and outcomes in children: A clinical commentary Attachment and Human Development 11 1 111-117


(2009). Clulow, C., Ed. Sex, Attachment and Couple Psychotherapy: Psychoanalytic Perspectives. London: Karnac.



(2009) Hewison, D. Power versus Love in Sadomasochistic Couple Relationships In: Clulow, C., Ed. Sex, Attachment and Couple Psychotherapy: Psychoanalytic Perspectives London: Karnac


(2009) Kahr, B. Psychoanalysis and Sexpertise In: Clulow, C., Ed. Sex, Attachment and Couple Psychotherapy: Psychoanalytic Perspectives London: Karnac


(2009) Morgan, M. and Freedman, J. From Fear of Intimacy to Perversion In: Clulow, C., Ed. Sex, Attachment and Couple Psychotherapy: Psychoanalytic Perspectives London: Karnac


(2009) Rosenthall, J. Perversion as Protection In: Clulow, C., Ed. Sex, Attachment and Couple Psychotherapy: Psychoanalytic Perspectives London: Karnac


(2009) Seymour, J. and Green, L. Loss of Desire: A Psycho-sexual Case Study In: Clulow, C., Ed. Sex, Attachment and Couple Psychotherapy: Psychoanalytic Perspectives London: Karnac


(2009) Shmueli, A. and Rix, S. Loss of Desire and Therapist Dread In: Clulow, C., Ed. Sex, Attachment and Couple Psychotherapy: Psychoanalytic Perspectives London: Karnac



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