We use a technique called Mentalization to help couples who face a range of challenges and difficulties. These include parents locked in entrenched conflict about their children, and couples/parents who are involved in domestic violence/couple conflict (also known as situational couple violence).

Our way of working is inspired by the original work of Professors Peter Fonagy and Anthony Bateman on mentalization, which they initially developed as a way of helping individuals.

Our mentalization approach helps couples/parents to:

  • Focus on, and think about, not only the feelings and emotions they are experiencing, but those of their children too, learning to modify their behaviour
  • To appreciate that their partner's thoughts and feelings may be different to their own, and that their partner may have a different perspective than they do
  • To be curious about possible differences between themselves and their partner, and especially about the reasons why people may behave as they do.

For more details of our approaches, see:

Our recent work in Harrow, called Parenting Under Pressure - Tavistock Relationships & Harrow Children’s Services report can be downloaded here:

harrow report